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“It’s Complicated”

Tangled RopesI’m hearing this phrase a lot lately.  It’s a response that’s lobbed at me when I ask questions about why someone stays in an icky relationship, a toxic job, a home that’s too big, and in other unsustainable situations.  We sure do like to complicate things.

Well, maybe not all of us.  Have you ever heard a four year old use this phrase?  Didn’t think so.  For them, life’s a lot more straightforward.

What is it about aging that adds a lot more gray to our lives (and not only on the top of our heads)?  Is life really that much more complicated?  Sure, I get that we have mortgages, tuition, taxes, aging parents, etc. to worry about, but we often make things harder than they have to be.

If you’re feeling the complications of your life, ask yourself these questions: 

  • What’s the simplest solution here?
  • What stories am I telling myself about why this situation can’t change?  Are they true?
  • If I wasn’t worried about what others thought, what action would I take?
  • How would I handle this looking through the eyes of a four year old, but with the resources of an adult?
  • What’s one step I could take to simplify this situation?

Then, make one change to “uncomplicate.” 

No excuses.  Just do it. 

Stuck?  Call me.

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