Comments for Christina Brandt http://www.christinabrandt.com Making "What's Next?" What Matters ™ Mon, 26 Jul 2010 22:45:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Comment on Stuff Happens by Shanti http://www.christinabrandt.com/stuff-happens/#comment-70 Shanti Mon, 26 Jul 2010 22:45:51 +0000 http://www.christinabrandt.com/?p=769#comment-70 Ahhhh yes we are those programmers that oops-ed up a little. Thanks for not jumping all over us and being mellow about our little oversight Christina! It was a pleasure working on the site and we love watching people evolve as they get a site they can work with change and have fun with! Stuff does happen....and how you deal with it is what matters in life :) Ahhhh yes we are those programmers that oops-ed up a little. Thanks for not jumping all over us and being mellow about our little oversight Christina! It was a pleasure working on the site and we love watching people evolve as they get a site they can work with change and have fun with!

Stuff does happen….and how you deal with it is what matters in life :)

]]> Comment on An Attitude Adjustment by chris http://www.christinabrandt.com/an-attitude-adjustment/#comment-69 chris Mon, 19 Jul 2010 17:53:12 +0000 http://www.christinabrandt.com/?p=778#comment-69 You bring up a very good point, Vera, and your final paragraph is spot on. I left out a part of the story in the interest of keeping the post somewhat brief. After I adjusted my attitude, I not only smiled but also asked the woman if I could have some room on the bench. She apologized for taking over the space, and moved her things. I believe that if I hadn't adjusted my thinking first, I'd have been a lot more unkind to her, which wouldn't have served either of us. Had her curling iron been dangerously close to my arm, I would have moved, and asked her to be more careful. Had she been smoking, I would have asked her to stop. This post and this way of thinking, is not intended to tell anyone to stop sticking up for themselves. Rather, it's to have them be completely honest about what's really occurring. And, from that place of honesty and truth, make a good choice about how to take care of oneself. I'm not really clear why your co-worker saw this as a justification to not stick up for herself. If she posts here, I'll be happy to explore that with her. You bring up a very good point, Vera, and your final paragraph is spot on.

I left out a part of the story in the interest of keeping the post somewhat brief. After I adjusted my attitude, I not only smiled but also asked the woman if I could have some room on the bench. She apologized for taking over the space, and moved her things. I believe that if I hadn’t adjusted my thinking first, I’d have been a lot more unkind to her, which wouldn’t have served either of us.

Had her curling iron been dangerously close to my arm, I would have moved, and asked her to be more careful. Had she been smoking, I would have asked her to stop. This post and this way of thinking, is not intended to tell anyone to stop sticking up for themselves. Rather, it’s to have them be completely honest about what’s really occurring. And, from that place of honesty and truth, make a good choice about how to take care of oneself.

I’m not really clear why your co-worker saw this as a justification to not stick up for herself. If she posts here, I’ll be happy to explore that with her.

]]> Comment on An Attitude Adjustment by Vera Flame http://www.christinabrandt.com/an-attitude-adjustment/#comment-67 Vera Flame Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:17:05 +0000 http://www.christinabrandt.com/?p=778#comment-67 Lots of valuable stuff in here. And it feels like it needs a dash of something more. For me, in order to adopt a practice as is suggested here, it is important to note what differentiates this situation from a situation where it IS in your best good to not simply accept reality and smile. I thought about it for a day and determined that what differentiates this is that she wasn't really affecting your well being very much. Had she been smoking, or using her curling iron dangerously close to your bare arm, or using profanity in front of your young child, then the answer to the question: Is she supposed to not endanger others? is definately not: "nope" and simply accepting "what is" no longer serves me well. My coworker with no backbone read this and saw it as a justification for her to not stick up for herself. It is easy to misread it as such because it's missing one component. Here's my best take at what that component is: Do not simply feed thoughts like angry, judgy, unkind. Consider whether the situation warrants taking action (leaving the locker room, asking her politely to stop, talking to management) and if it doesn't, THEN go through the steps above. Lots of valuable stuff in here. And it feels like it needs a dash of something more.

For me, in order to adopt a practice as is suggested here, it is important to note what differentiates this situation from a situation where it IS in your best good to not simply accept reality and smile.

I thought about it for a day and determined that what differentiates this is that she wasn’t really affecting your well being very much.

Had she been smoking, or using her curling iron dangerously close to your bare arm, or using profanity in front of your young child, then the answer to the question: Is she supposed to not endanger others? is definately not: “nope” and simply accepting “what is” no longer serves me well.

My coworker with no backbone read this and saw it as a justification for her to not stick up for herself. It is easy to misread it as such because it’s missing one component. Here’s my best take at what that component is:

Do not simply feed thoughts like angry, judgy, unkind. Consider whether the situation warrants taking action (leaving the locker room, asking her politely to stop, talking to management) and if it doesn’t, THEN go through the steps above.

]]> Comment on Joy Dieting, Part One by Mary http://www.christinabrandt.com/joy-dieting-part-one/#comment-56 Mary Tue, 25 May 2010 14:55:30 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=579#comment-56 Will be missing you all tonight. Can't wait to hear what each of you have uncovered to have more joy in your life because of the Joy Diet Book for the past few weeks. BTW, I have had lots of truths surface. None earth shattering, merely nice realities that make me very happy. Still have not conquered the doing nothing exercise....but I sure acknowledge my un-planned down time as an opportunity to sit quietly and enjoy my thoughts. Will be missing you all tonight. Can’t wait to hear what each of you have uncovered to have more joy in your life because of the Joy Diet Book for the past few weeks. BTW, I have had lots of truths surface. None earth shattering, merely nice realities that make me very happy. Still have not conquered the doing nothing exercise….but I sure acknowledge my un-planned down time as an opportunity to sit quietly and enjoy my thoughts.

]]> Comment on The Answer to World Peace: 5 Duh Moments by Tami McCall http://www.christinabrandt.com/the-answer-to-world-peace-5-duh-moments/#comment-63 Tami McCall Mon, 24 May 2010 22:30:31 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=620#comment-63 Yes, I heard that Oprah had trademarked that phrase (who knew?), so "Duh Moment" can't be far behind. Grab it while you can! =) Yes, I heard that Oprah had trademarked that phrase (who knew?), so “Duh Moment” can’t be far behind. Grab it while you can! =)

]]> Comment on The Answer to World Peace: 5 Duh Moments by Christina Brandt http://www.christinabrandt.com/the-answer-to-world-peace-5-duh-moments/#comment-62 Christina Brandt Thu, 20 May 2010 13:41:19 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=620#comment-62 Thanks, Tami. Did you know that Oprah has trademarked the phrase "aha moment?" An insurance company tried to use it with a tagline like "proud sponsor of the aha moment" and Oprah's lawyers went after the company. It had to yank a lot of ads, and some got through before the suit. So, maybe I SHOULD brand "the Duh Moment!" Thanks, Tami. Did you know that Oprah has trademarked the phrase “aha moment?” An insurance company tried to use it with a tagline like “proud sponsor of the aha moment” and Oprah’s lawyers went after the company. It had to yank a lot of ads, and some got through before the suit.

So, maybe I SHOULD brand “the Duh Moment!”

]]> Comment on The Answer to World Peace: 5 Duh Moments by Tami McCall http://www.christinabrandt.com/the-answer-to-world-peace-5-duh-moments/#comment-61 Tami McCall Thu, 20 May 2010 00:20:24 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=620#comment-61 Chris!! OMG!!! I am laughing hysterically right now! This post is EXACTLY what I needed today!! I have been having "duh" moments all over the place but unlike you and your enlightened self, I was beating myself up about them. Your words are like a breath of fresh air! So, you just keep on "liver"-ing your best life and before you know it, "Duh Moment" will be a brand. =) Rock on!! Chris!! OMG!!! I am laughing hysterically right now! This post is EXACTLY what I needed today!! I have been having “duh” moments all over the place but unlike you and your enlightened self, I was beating myself up about them. Your words are like a breath of fresh air! So, you just keep on “liver”-ing your best life and before you know it, “Duh Moment” will be a brand. =) Rock on!!

]]> Comment on The Answer to World Peace: 5 Duh Moments by Christina Brandt http://www.christinabrandt.com/the-answer-to-world-peace-5-duh-moments/#comment-60 Christina Brandt Wed, 19 May 2010 19:55:46 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=620#comment-60 I'd love to hear about YOUR Duh Moments, Debi. Hope you'll share here. I had two more Duh Moments after releasing this post in my eNewsletter: 1) Spell check before you hit the send key (so you don't type "Liver Your Best Life Weekend" again - I fixed it here but the newsletter's got the typo in it), and 2) Test the links to make sure they work - the worksheet about peace didn't work in my newsletter, either. Sigh! I’d love to hear about YOUR Duh Moments, Debi. Hope you’ll share here. I had two more Duh Moments after releasing this post in my eNewsletter:

1) Spell check before you hit the send key (so you don’t type “Liver Your Best Life Weekend” again – I fixed it here but the newsletter’s got the typo in it), and

2) Test the links to make sure they work – the worksheet about peace didn’t work in my newsletter, either. Sigh!

]]> Comment on The Answer to World Peace: 5 Duh Moments by Debi Johnson http://www.christinabrandt.com/the-answer-to-world-peace-5-duh-moments/#comment-59 Debi Johnson Wed, 19 May 2010 17:56:29 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=620#comment-59 Thank you Christine! I can totally relate to your "Duh Moments"! They make me laugh, but they also bring up some really good points. I want to use your list and add some of my own "duhs" to bring my life back into focus. Debi Johnson :-) Thank you Christine!

I can totally relate to your “Duh Moments”! They make me laugh, but they also bring up some really good points. I want to use your list and add some of my own “duhs” to bring my life back into focus.

Debi Johnson :-)

]]> Comment on Joy Dieting, Part Two by Christina Brandt http://www.christinabrandt.com/joy-dieting-part-two/#comment-58 Christina Brandt Wed, 19 May 2010 15:42:22 +0000 http://christinabrandt.com/?p=598#comment-58 I'm so glad to hear that you've spoken your truth, Gilda. The best reason to do so is to experience the power you described. It's not really about changing anything at all, except the way we live our own lives. When we live our truth, we're living our right lives. Others will either join us, or not, but we're aligned with our essential selves, and that's What Matters. I’m so glad to hear that you’ve spoken your truth, Gilda. The best reason to do so is to experience the power you described. It’s not really about changing anything at all, except the way we live our own lives. When we live our truth, we’re living our right lives. Others will either join us, or not, but we’re aligned with our essential selves, and that’s What Matters.

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